“We often feel that we lack something, and seem to see that very quality in someone else, promptly attributing all our own qualities to him too, and a kind of ideal contentment as well. And so the happy mortal is a model of complete perfection—which we have ourselves created.”—Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, The Sorrows of Young Werther (via psych-quotes)
“When you are attracted to people, it’s because of the details. Their kindness. Their eyes. The fact that they can get you to laugh when you need it the most.”—Jodi Picoult, Sing You Home (via psych-facts)
“Anyway, you can’t leave her like that. You can’t do that to the woman. She doesn’t deserve it; nobody does. You don’t belong to her and she doesn’t belong to you, but you’re both part of each other; if she got up and left now and walked away and you never saw each other again for the rest of your lives, and you lived an ordinary waking life for another fifty years, even so on your deathbed you would still know she was part of you.”—Iain Banks, “The Bridge” (via mooneyedandglowing)
Flirting is a subtle art form that when done right can have great results. It can let someone know that you’re interested without you having to come out and say it, and your actions can speak louder than your words. Done wrong, you can come across as desperate, too aggressive, or maybe even too subtle so that the other person doesn’t even know you’re interested. Here’s how to master the art of flirting:
Eye contact. Eye contact is the basis for all flirting techniques. No one will ever know that you’re interested if you can’t look them in the eye, and on the other hand, you’ll come across as creepy if all you do is stare. Eye contact in flirting is used in the same basic way you would when talking with any friend, it’s just simply held a little longer. Instead of a quick glance, maybe you’ll hold their gaze for even one or two seconds longer. This subtle movement will quickly attract anyone’s attention because it’s slightly different than the eye contact we are used to in every other interaction we have. It sends the signal that you’re looking at them in a different way that you would anyone else and lets them know that they have your attention.
Gentle teasing. As kids we were always told that the kid on the playground that teases you is the one that secretly likes you. They are just trying to get your attention and talk to you.
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